Long Distance Relationships - Love, Advice, Quotes, Tips, Ideas

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HELP! Isabel 2008 Jan 12 07:49 AM

Dear Kaycee!

I know its been awhile since you wrote your message.How is it going with you and Josh right now?
Seriously, your email could be from me as well. I am in almost the same situation. I m from Germany and my boyfriend Chris lives in Texas (he is American). We have been in this LDR since almost 2 years now. We already talked about getting married after I finished university and he navigator school. But since like 3 months or so he is withdrawing himself from me. He keeps telling that he loves me and that he is sure that we will survive this (hopefully) last year but he needs to focus on his education for now. I can feel this growing distance between us (in addition to those 5000 Miles which are already between us). He barely calls me or leaves me little message anymore. And the times he could "spend" with me he is sleeping. Sometimes Im able to tell myself that it is just a matter of time and if i keep hoping everything will turn out just fine. Other times Im absolutely desperate, especially at night. The thing is that if you put sooo much effort and strength in a relationship like this because you want it to work out and you know that this is the man you want to spend the rest of your life with, you can't just give up. My mind says that it might be better to end all of this, my heart tells me to keep going bc its worth it in the end. I know how Chris is when we are together. Not everything is perfect, of course, but he is there for me, loves me...we have so much fun and great moments together. Knowing all this its hard for me now to handle the whole situation. Im barely able to focus on my work and school stuff, i cry at night because i feel so lonely. Over the last weeks i bought a whole bunch of advice-giving books but how are they supposed to help if i know about them and read them but my boyfriend doesn't really care about reading? How do I make him to understand how i feel when he "rejects" me? Every time i want to talk about it he tells me that Im just cranky and need some rest. I am praying every day as well that God will give me the patience I need to keep this relationship working.I love him dearly.
Anyone who has some good advice? Any advice i really can work with? I appreciate every helpful thought.
Thanks and good luck to you as well, Kaycee.

Isabel

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