Long Distance Relationships - Love, Advice, Quotes, Tips, Ideas

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trying to stay strong... megan 2006 Dec 16 06:33 PM

well my story is pretty long.. but here it goes.. so me and my boyfriend started going out about a year ago..(nov. 25) After about a month of seeing each other he told me that he was enlisted in the army and would have to leave for basic traing in june and wanted to know if we should either break up now and save the trouble or see how things go. all our friends said we should just see how things work out. i wasnt exactly sure how i felt about the army thing but i did know that we really cared about eachother, so we continued our relationship. months and months flew by and we became inseperable. we had something special and we connected on every level. we both learned that we both had a hard time growing up as a kid. he was abused and my mom was an alcoholic. we knew everyting about me and my life and i knew everything about his. for the first time.. we were both completely happy. then june came closer and closer... and june 21 was here. the most painful day ive ever been through. i made him my everything and then to see him walk away... i cried for hours!!! til i feel asleep. and we didnt have any contact while he was in basic traing except for snail mail... i was never so excited to see a letter in my whole life!!! but heres the twist that many people dont understand... im 17 and im a jr in highschool. he is 19. many say that we are too young and things wont work out. that summer while he was away, i was so confused. i loved him, but i didnt know if he was the one i wanted to spend the rest of my life with. how was i supposed to know??? that made the whole summer go by soo slow. i cried almost every night. finally he got to AIT.. which is a second basic traing place where he got to use computers and call me everyday. it made everything so much better but it wasnt the same. i felt mad at him.. and i knew i had no reason to be, but i felt like he had done this, he had left and it was all his fault. our phone conversations were long silences some times cuz i didnt have anything good to say. but after about a month of talking things got better.. i started to get over the lonely stage. and excepted that he wasnt here. things got alot better. and in november he got to come home for about 3 weeks. we spent every single minute together..when i wasnt in school. and he just left for germany where he will be stationed for almost 3 years. i know im young and i know that i have many choices and obstacles to come, but i dont understand why people say i should break up with him. i dont see the point. im finally happy and i have someone that loves me more than anything and i feel the same way. i dont feel the need to try dating other guys or anything like that.. which is what everyone tells me.. or they are like "what about college?" and honestly i really dont know where ill be in life in 3 years or who ill be with. only time can tell. as for now.. im slowly making my way through a long distace relationship. i dont really have anyone to relate to since im so young and people my age are always blown away when i say my bf is in the army lol. but i know that i love him more than anything and we plan on being together forever. so i wanna to tell everyone else in a LDR, to stay strong. u can do it. its alot of hard work, and patience. and most importantly trust.. that was the hardest part. and of course those really bad days where u miss them more than anything.. like today lol. thats why i decided to write this. so thanks for reading this.. if u made it this far. its kinda pointless but writing helps. =]