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Scared to be hurt!! LDR (UK - SA) Worried & Hurting 2006 Jul 07 02:03 PM

I'm not sure if I should be happy as I feel SO SCARED that I might loose my soul mate. I met my Love in SA, was love at first sight.

During that short time he bought me a ring and he said he won't call it an engagement ring but his love commitment to me and our relationship. He showed to be head over heels in love with me and Im crazy about him. We had a lot of talking within a week of meeting. Our Plans were,If we are still feeling the same way in a period of two years we have to get married. So from the date he slipped the ring in my finger I've been very excited and but at the same time feeling very scared. I have been through divorce and he has as well.

We departed with a promise of planning to commit to each other in two years. We kept constant communication which proves to be tough because of cost. I had recently visited him in UK and he was very pleased with the effort to meet him.

We had a lovely time and when we were talking I picked up some doubt in him. He does not sound confident as he has been. Through our discussion he mentioned to me that everyone back home does not approve of his relationship they say I might hurt him.

He also introduced me to his family and other friends, unfortunately I could not meet his kids. He had planned to introduce me to them.

I'm such a committed person I will never do that to him. I also feel very hurt his doubt dampened my spirit and I'm hurting big time. He still confessed his love for me, but I'm scared.

How do I stay strong. He is the best thing that ever happened to me. With distance that much it really hurts and I don't know what to do. I also feel he is exposed to temptation and he is within an arms lenght with his so called old flames & ex-relationships. His ex-wife constantly phones him and I think she is trying to get him back. He also confessed having other relationships that he said he is getting out of them. He reported to have told the other ladies about me and he says he is not interested in them anymore.

He is planning to come meet my parents soon. He has shown to be a loving man and very committed as well, but I'm worried. He is exposed to more danger and the distance is killing. If the situation is like this, what does one have to do. I need a lot of FAITH. I feel very lonely and I cry when I mis him What do I do!! ITS TOUGH, I absolutely don't think of any other man than him.

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