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To my fellow long distance lovers ...Distance to a relationship is like wind to a flame.
It extinguishes the weak and ignites the strong. Jenn from California
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| CJ | 2008 Jul 13 12:41 AM | |
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| My boyfriend lives in Australia & I'm in NZ but things couldn't be more perfect given the situation. We've been going out for almost 3mths & we were in love about 3 months before. We met online & we haven't met in person but he's coming to live with me in Nov for a year and then we're moving back to Aust. He's practically the exact replica of me but in male form. We know everything about the other & we both tell each other everything no matter how stupid it may be. We talk for 7+ hours everyday & only time we aren't talking is if he's at school, or we're asleep or just not able to get to a computer/have no credit on our phones. We finish each others sentences & even feel things without knowing the other person feels the same way like he hurt himself & my body started hurting in that area & I didn't even know he had. I feel very lucky cause I don't think many people would find such a perfect match like I did. Guess you'd say we found each other at the right time cause we were both incredibly depressed and had no-one (we also have had a similar horrible upbringing & we just click in all the right ways) & y'know I was going to try kill myself again.. Then he comes along and just starts fixing things. We're getting married next May. He'll be 19 & I, 18. I don't see the point in waiting for a long time cause we both know what we want & that's just each other & we'd both give up our lives for each other & just things like that. So anyway I just think "don't bag LDR's until you try them" I had a bad one & it put me off for a while, but I tried with him & viola. | ||
| N.Smith | wales | 2008 Jun 14 02:24 AM |
| So i've been in a LDR with this girl for a little while now, we've never met, and have only spoken on the phone a handfull of times, but i find myself falling more and more in love with her every time we speak. she lives over in america, while i live in the UK. its hard at times, and we both hate that theres so much distance between us. next year im making the trip to america to see her, i cant wait to see her finall, but im also a bit afraid, i dont know what to do when i get there, its more nerves than anything else, im just scared that i'll go there and she wont like me after all? idno, but like, LDR's do work, you just gotta work at them, be commited, never EVER give up, and no matter how much distance between you both, you keep loving eachother.. | ||
| Lucy & Chirs | UK | 2008 Jun 11 07:47 PM |
| This site has proven to be an inspiration to us as we are in a LDR. I would like to thank everyone else who has given us inspiration for our relationship. Loads of people told us that it would never work and that we would finish our relationship in the first few weeks. We have been together for nearly 8 months coming up now and it has been the greatest 8 months of my entire life. We see each other every 2/3 weeks and we get to each other by national express coach *the prices are not too bad considering* We are both 16 and are in love no matter what other people think of us. We've had people sticking their noses in to our business and also trying to break us up but we have proven to remain strong :) We would like to tell everyone who has no faith in LDR that they do work and can continue to work no matter what :) Thanks | ||
| lili4ever | Ontario Canana | 2008 Jan 01 10:59 AM |
| On behalf of Pat and Lili...here is our love story. Patrick lives in Dominican Republic and I`m from Ontario Canada. We met 3 years ago on date.com and to this day...we are in love more than ever. I`ve been to DR twice to meet him and in October 2008 we are finally getting married in DR. I have 2 more years in Canada before my son is off to college then I will be uniting my love in Dominican. He owns an intercafe business and I`m a graphic designer which i can work from anywhere in the world. Some days it`s very hard, lonely and frustrating but we talk every day online and by phone and we support each other to be strong and patient because soon we will be together. If you are someone in a long distance relationship, my advice is that if you are commited, in love, and want that goal of being together...don`t give up...be strong and you will end up with that special someone. Thanks from Pat and Lili | ||
| Chymere | Georgia | 2007 Dec 30 07:32 PM |
| Thank all of you. You all have inspired me! I currently have a boyfriend in North Carolina. We met this summer when I was visiting family. I love him so much and its deeper than society's definition. I have pictures and memories that help me through the lonely times and I keep myself busy. I talk to him alot about my life and everything else. It is the beginning stages and I know its going to get hard. But against the odds our relationship is in God's hands. And I agree...when there is a will there is a way. | ||
| angel | italy | 2007 Aug 21 04:12 AM |
| hi, i have a LDR he is in US while im here in italy, my boyfriend and i just meet in the interet.. at first his family thought i was just a scam so we played with their rules and i proved to them that they are wrong... we chat and call each other frequently and talked for an hour.. and then oneday he decided to come and visit me... we had fun but i met this girl, one of his tour group mate she is old. i got jealous with her i dont know why... maybe bcoz they just met here but sudden close.. and my bf was a good person.. when they go back to their country. my bf went to her party.. and stay at her place!!! hello only my bf and that girl only in the house, u cant blame if i think some negative eventhough i trust my bf... then oneday when i saw his profile in myspace i saw a 6 pix of that girl... so fight over that!!! my point is, why would he put pix of that girl its not his gf.. and its 2 unfair... i dont know if im making a sense but even an adult get jealous and its not a childish thing.. Right girls? i dont know what to do i love my bf and i dont want to loose him... i need some advice | ||
| Chris | 2007 Aug 15 11:42 PM | |
| My boyfriend and I have been together for about 9 months now and 4 of those months he has been away. We have continued to keep strong and hold on to our faith that soon we will be together again. Instead of letting this time apart bring us down, we have used it to become closer together. I think that our hand written letters to each other keep us going, theres nothing like a love letter from the heart. | ||
| diana jackson | usa | 2007 Mar 15 10:27 PM |
| Recently the man I have been talking to on the internet. Made the move to come to my house. I told him I wanted to meet him. Really did not want him to move in. He said he was convinced we were right for one another. So I let him come. He is here now, I am not comfortable with him. However I feel bad I do not feel the same way as he. I do not have the heart to tell him. However it is obvious to me we are not right for each other. He sleeps in my couch. We do not talk about our relationship any more. We just live here. He seems ok with that. It is really weird. I am hoping that when he gets his truck he will say this is not working out. But I am not sure he will. I am in a fix and not sure how to get out of it ...without hurting this nice man. He is a very kind person, which makes things harder to end it. I need help, any suggestions? | ||
| Mei | USA | 2007 Jan 19 07:30 PM |
| Hi my name is Mei. I live in the USA and have an extremely difficult and unusual LDR ... here's why ... I met John about 2 years ago, we both played online games and started to talk to eachother in a group chat with many of our fellow game players. After weeks of just talking we found that we were best of friends. I told him of my relationship and he told me of his. After a while he broke up and so did I. Now for the last year and a half we have fallen in love and always talked about carrying on our real lives together. As I have a financial issues and other responsibilities on my end, John offered to give up his life in the UK to be with me. Well for the last 9 months things has been happening with his flight arrangements. His business partner cancelled the first, then the travel agency stole his money and never booked anything, then he ended up in the hospital right before the next try, and when he finally got to the airport and checked in, he passed out. (He has tried for 9 months on numerous attempts not only what is mentioned above) I love him to death, but he tells me these things and I don't know what to believe, is he really serious? or is this a way to get out of coming. We stay connected almost 24/7, even when I'm at work (yes, he owned his own business so he doesn't leave his house unless to the store or something). I don't know what to believe, we've been together for almost 2 years and I fell in love with the man that I got to know through constant conversations, but I want more than just an internet relationship. Please if anyone is going through this, please lend me support as I feel like I am falling apart and don't know where to turn. | ||
| Andrea | Orlando | 2006 Nov 11 01:39 AM |
| My name is Andrea and I live in Orlando and my boyfriend of 6 months, Jamie, lives in Calgary, Canada..Clear across the continent. It is really tough. Wish we could see eachother every day, but our time together is amazing. We met over the internet and spoke for about 3 weeks and then he came down to Florida and when I met him for the first time, the both of us just knew. He grabbed my face and just kissed me right after hello. Everything about him is amazing and the connection and chemisrtry between us in remarkable. Although it is tough, the both of us are committed and know we will be together one day. To turn our backs on this relationship just because it is difficult would be a mistake, so we do the best we can with the phone and the internet. I am so in love with him and know he is the one, my soul mate and so worth waiting for..Andrea | ||
| Chelsea | Texas | 2006 Oct 24 11:27 AM |
| Mr. Blake, your books have really helped me with my long distance relationship. My fiancee is in the Army, stationed in Arizona, while I'm here in Texas. Before I read your books, I was having more bad days than good. But once I realized WHY I was feeling the way I was, it was easier for me to cheer myself up. It was easier for me to deal with all the many feelings that were swirling through me. Thank you so much for taking the time to write these books, and touching my heart. | ||
| LEILANI A. BALDOZ | CONNECTICUT | 2006 Oct 11 09:24 PM |
| WHEN YOU FIND THAT SPECIAL SOMEONE LET THEM KNOW EVERY DAY THAT YOU LOVE THEM IN EVERY WAY! DON'T LET THEM GO A DAY WITH HEARING THOSE IMPORTANT WORDS ' I LOVE YOU' | ||
| Miss Lonley | 2006 Oct 11 07:39 PM | |
| OK Natasha. I have the exact same problem too. I [L] a boy but he doesn't know or probly cares. I love him so dearly and quite sincerely. Just be yourself but not to loud. Be his Friend. And love him proud! Love, Miss Lonley.xox | ||
| Natasha | 2006 Oct 11 07:33 PM | |
| I love him sooo much but he will never know how much!!! i even flirt with him but he doesn't notice and it breaks my heart even more because he doesn't love me i need soo much advice to make him love me! i think i'm ugly and he probably thinks i am to can you plz try and give me some advice i need some ERGENTLY!!!!! | ||
| Alyssa | 2006 Oct 06 01:58 PM | |
| Does anybody think that the grass is greener on the other Side? I do cause there is a lot of other fish is the sea and that could treat u better but then u don want to lose the one u love for someone u like.. | ||
| Rachel | usa | 2006 Oct 05 01:53 PM |
| i am in love with somebody, i know he loves me back. but i have 2 move and its hard. like i always said "if you truly love sombody you will never let them go." and i could never let him go. thats the hard part. | ||
| Don | Texas-USA | 2006 Sep 24 06:43 AM |
| I have met a lady from South Africa and we are in love with each other..i sent her an engagement ring through the mail and now its lost or tied up in customs.anyway i enjoy the stories you have here on long distance relationships...they do work. | ||
| David Jones | NC | 2006 Sep 11 02:39 PM |
| Hi im david and i just met this girl about a 3 months ago and she lives 4 hours away, but i see her about 2 a month. but when we talk on the phone it seems like we always say the same stuff. Any advice on what to talk about! | ||
| esther | Nairobi, Kenya | 2006 Sep 07 09:41 AM |
| My name is Esther and thanks very much for this website. I met Jan online and it has been a great adventure for me. I have this feeling of being so close to each other. He lives in Netherlands and I love our conversation every time we had a chat on phone or through mails. Am so happy now because I will have a chance of meeting him in the next four months. I always feel that he is very near even though he is miles away. | ||
| Sarah | Michigan | 2006 Sep 05 09:07 PM |
| My boyfriend, Carl, and I have been together for almost 3 years. This summer, we moved away for college. He's going to a university that's 10 hours away from me. We are both going to universities that specialize in our majors. I have not seen him for 3 weeks, but next week, we are making the long journey half way to see each other and I'm so excited. I find myself daydreaming during classes and crying when I'm alone in my room. This is the hardest thing that I've ever done. | ||
| THOVHOGI NDAMULELO | SOUTH AFRICA | 2006 Sep 04 07:52 AM |
| I USSUALY VIEW THE SITES BUT THIS IS THE FISRT ONE TO TAKE ALL OF MY ATTENTION I AM LOVING THIS I CAN EVEN TELL MYSELF THAT I AM LATE I SHOULD HAVE KNOWN SOME MONTHS AGO IT INPIRES ME ALOT | ||
| Kevun Kr. | USA | 2006 Aug 29 08:16 AM |
| Your website is just beautiful! I wish you much success in all your endeavours! Thanks the author for this site,has very much liked! Good luck, Kevin | ||
| Rachel | United States | 2006 Aug 27 06:25 PM |
| I am in a LDR and yes it is hard at times. I have read some of your comments and it feels good to know that some one else is the same situation. To those who doubt, know that if your love is strong enough it can endure anything. I know it is hard, but know that if you have found your true love it will stand the test of time. Remember this and then things dont seem as hard. | ||
| Maria | 2006 Aug 24 10:08 PM | |
| I have been looking for sites like this for a long time. Thank you! Thank you for your site. I have found here much useful information... | ||
| kayleigh | england | 2006 Aug 24 09:16 AM |
| hi im here for a bit of advice really ive been seeing this fantastic guy for about six months and in 2 months time he will be working away on a cruise ship for 6 months we have both established that we want to wait for each other and i am happy with this. i dont want him to go but i want him to be happy and experience this as hes wanted to do this for a while id just like some advice on how to cope with not seeing that special person for 6 months how to cope wthout going mad or feeling the need to give up! x thanks x | ||
| Joanna | UK | 2006 Aug 23 05:14 PM |
| I'm just leaving a brief note to express my relief at finding this website. My boyfriend and I have been together for just over 7 months, and in a few weeks I am moving to study 150 miles away from home at University. My boyfriend means an awful lot to me, and although it still hasn't been discussed, I would very much like to attempt our relationship when I leave. I have been mulling over all the possibilities in my head for quite some time and not letting them out; this has been a great source of release for me to read your comments. I believe I will be able to see my fella every two of three weeks, and as long as we are honest with each other, I believe it could work. Thank you to all of you for your advice, even if you didn't know you were giving it. | ||
| Sara | 2006 Aug 19 11:12 AM | |
| I'm in a long distance relationship..my guy is so sweet and I've never met anyone like him..but I saw my ex and kinda started talking to him but realized I don't want my ex back because I love my guy even though it's long distance..I think the guilt is pushing me to think my guy could be cheating..everyone says they know he isn't and I've never found any proof that he is or has..he's still sweet and all..didn't change..so I think I'm just worried because I was talking to my ex and actually feel guilty so I base his actions from what I did..what should I do? Is it just guilt or could he really be cheating? | ||
| Bluebell | South Africa (US) | 2006 Aug 18 09:58 PM |
| What a wonderful website! I met my husband online and moved to the US a few years ago. I have since met many women like me who have gone through this and the forum is a place where we can discuss the ups and downs of this big move, including the immigration process, adjusting to a new country etc. Please send me an e-mail so that I can forward the website url to you. I look forward to getting to know you better! Bluebell | ||
| Jones | Germany | 2006 Aug 15 08:34 AM |
| The site\'\'s very professional! Keep up the good work! Oh yes, one extra comment - maybe you could add more pictures too! So, good luck to your team! | ||
| Paulus | 2006 Aug 09 11:47 AM | |
| Hy people, it seem that most of us here are in the same boat.i'm in the LDR too.I met my Syg wen i ws in Kota kinabalu for school outing..we were js friend then until last 31st August 2005.our bday fall on the same date and month - 30 aug.Since we bcom couple we meet alot of bumpy,winding roads with stormy, hot and dry seasons.wen all of the sudden i hv to returned to my own country after completes my training and leaving her high and dry.we do maintain comunication tru mails as well as fones.and to be honest, tis LDR is hard but rare cases to each of us,i find dat Faith, hope and Love that keep us together.i betray her at one time by having an affair wif sum1 else at my place..wen i admitted abt it to her she ask for a breakup..wen i think again i realise that she's the only person that dwell deep in my heart.i broke up with my affair n beg her to giv me a second chance, for which she did n 'reaccept' me unconditionally..from then onwards i realise that she love's me more than i love her!now things change we Love Each Other ever more than before.each day as i awakes i pray that God will keep our LDR, brightining our Faith, Hope and Love!though we meet once year, we trust and endures together!Each day,she become my sunshine that shine and warm my day!!she's a simple,undemanding, serene,faithful and lovely young lady of my life!Ireni you are all that i have!!curently she's studying in the local university there,surrounded by many 'competetive guys' yets she remain in love!im proud of her! | ||
| Angus | 2006 Aug 07 12:41 AM | |
| Hi everybody! I like your forum so much. I share you point of view. I hope we'll become friends. I'm sociable guy | ||
| Sum_m | 2006 Aug 05 12:02 PM | |
| Hi, I am so glad to hear about this website. cool website, i wanna know, If a guy talks to a gal who is not his lover, do u think it would cause an affair to crop up? but the guy has told his gal friend about his friendship and he says The friend is just a time pass...and not to worry over it???? Help me? THAnkyou.... | ||
| Richard Ifere | Nigeria | 2006 Aug 05 02:45 AM |
| Hello Stephen, There's this pretty girl, she's courteous, clean courageous and above all god looking. I really want to have her by my side, but still do not know the right word or way to use, She seems to be a little bit defficult as people may say. But i believe they havn't cast the right "dile" I only need your solicitation, so as to cast my net and get the right fish. thanks for your magnanimity. Richard Ifere "cheerssss in advance" | ||
| Lisa | Florida, USA | 2006 Aug 03 08:04 PM |
| Hi all.been in a ldr for over 1 yr.he lives in NY city.at times it is very hard and very lonely,but he is worth it.we have great times when we are together.about twice a month for 4-5 days.we talk on the phone numerous times a day.he most definatly is my soulmate.never had love like this before and we are both in our 40s.one problem that I am having is all my friends are married, and I feel left alone alot. any suggestions? | ||
| ruth | nairobi kenya | 2006 Aug 02 04:10 AM |
| thanks for this site. am in an LDR with a wonderfull gentleman in the uk. it,s really great, he just understands me and me him. it,s like we are soulmates infact i believe we are soulmate. i met him online. the friendship is great and am soo calm and confident about it, am not restless like in other relationships which were not ldr but there is a bonding i cant understand but i know it is great. Thanks you for this site. | ||
| SamantA | USA | 2006 Jul 31 03:46 AM |
| Your website is just beautiful! I wish you much success in all your endeavours! In love, friendship and healing Linda | ||
| Megan | Australia | 2006 Jul 28 11:10 AM |
| I WISH I knew about this book two years ago! My partner and I have gone through two terrible years apart, however I am finally finishing univeristy now so we will be together. I only wish I knew about this book! I would have read it over and over... goodness knows I needed it. I wonder if the book has anything in it about 'reuniting'with your man. Because these last few weeks are actually the toughest, because we can't decide which country to live in, and are fighting. It seems as though the last stretch is the toughest. Could you imagine being in a LDR for 2 years and then with 2 weeks to go breaking up... ughh M | ||
| Farag M. Afify (BenAzouz) | Egypt, Middle East | 2006 Jul 27 05:24 AM |
| (my Poem) Option Two directions; back or ahead An open option, what do you want Either ahead, as always said Or to go back, to where we start Hesitation, is not a good action Even, does not need, a break Absolutely, it leaves fraction Situation, not a piece of cake Decision is a part of the future And future forms fate Compare it, to find the feature Just before it comes too late | ||
| Shachein | malaysia | 2006 Jul 26 07:44 AM |
| My name is Shachein and I do hope that this mail of friendship introduction finds you and all around you in the most convenient state of health and believing you are fine and living pretty good. A friend is someone you can trust, a friend is someone you can talk to. A friend is there for you no matter what happens. A friend is someone you can have fun with. a friend is someone you can always count on. Friend no words could describe how amazing you are. i will treasure your friendship in ways that no one has....I will also like to know you more and if you can send an email to my email address. Wishing you a most divine blessing in all your endeavours. Friend hope u will understand that someone will waiting for ur reply. Shachein shacehin@yahoo.com | ||
| Kiara | 2006 Jul 25 10:07 PM | |
| Hey, I'm in a new LDR, we've been together for about a month now. He's about 1000 miles away from me, and it's hard on both of us. There are days when I feel very insecure about our relationship due to the fact that I can't call/see him as much as I could previously. It's gotten better now and he's coming up for a two week visit! It still worries me when I think that I am more serious about our relationship then he is. I think that seeing him will relight the passion and that both of us will feel better. | ||
| SamantA | USA | 2006 Jul 24 04:36 AM |
| Hello! I wish to thank authors for this site, it was pleasant to me! I hope that the project will develop only. With the best regards, Samanta. | ||
| Judith | Canada | 2006 Jul 18 12:03 PM |
| "Friendship is not diminished by distance or time... by suffering or silence. It is in these things that it roots most deeply. It is from these things that it flowers." - Anon | ||
| Varty | Russia | 2006 Jun 19 05:34 PM |
| Remarkable site at You! Only here I have found that so long and unsuccessfully searched on the Internet. | ||
| Victoria | 2006 Jun 07 03:08 PM | |
| I am currently in long distance relationship for almost 3 years. He and I were doing well stable in long distance relationship until I found.... He admits that he had an affair with another girl and pregneat in 3 months. I am breaking my heart so much. He told me that he had to stay in there because of her baby but he does not love her at all. He still love me. He supposed to move in living with me this summer but he confused because of baby. I explained him that he can support a child while he move in living with me. The lady does not want to him move in living with me because of baby. I am stuck and dont know what to do. I dont want to live in Idaho because Idaho is boring state. What's more she is seeing someone. Thats no making senses to me. I will be seeing him next Thursday. I dont know what to say to him. I am frustrated sooo much. so what do you think or suggestion?? Let me know... | ||
| Anon | UK | 2006 Jun 01 04:24 PM |
| I fell in love with a girl on a weekend trip but when i asked her where she lived i was devistated when she said she lived 200 miles away but when i read ur book it brought a whole new light to it im now seing her when i can and were making them meetings very special. | ||
| KIJOMA MPHUKA | AFRRICA, ZAMBIA, LUSAKA | 2006 May 27 05:17 AM |
| HI EVERYONE,AM REALLY GLAD TO HAVE COME ACROSS THIS WEBSITE BECAUSE IT REALLY HELPS US TO KEEP OUR LOVE GOING STRONG EVEN IF THE DISTANCE IS TOO MUCH BUT EVERYDSY WHEN I WAKE UP FROM MY BED I FEEL HER LOVE AROUND ME VERY STRONGLY INDEED.I FEEL A CLOUD OF WORMTH KNOWING SHE IS THINKING ABOUT ME WHERE SHE IS ASWELL THANX. | ||
| Rose Marie Muhl | 2006 May 26 11:40 AM | |
| I read your first book and it was very helpful. Thanks for your insights and thoughts. Blessings, Rose | ||
| Nina | 2006 May 22 04:24 PM | |
| Hello everyone, How nice to be here again. I have a question. Does anyone know, or there excist a book about long distance relationships in Dutch. I am from Holland. And of course I speak English. But It would be so much easier if I could find a good book about it in dutch. I like reading about it, and find some ideas or support. Any advice would be welcome. Thank you. Good luck everyone My respect for everyone Greetings Nina | ||
| MG | NorCal, USA | 2006 May 15 08:51 PM |
| I just found this site after a google search for ‘long distance relationship.’ My boyfriend and I are struggling to keep the faith even though we love and respect each other. The sample chapters have been helpful already and I forwarded the link to my boyfriend. It’s good to know we’re not alone. | ||
| Maddygurl | Singapore | 2006 May 02 04:08 AM |
| this website is great.. there are alot of them out who feel that long distant relationships never work out. this could prove them wrong. this serves an a form of hope to those who are struggling with a long distant relationship. | ||
| Jami | WA | 2006 Apr 28 10:32 PM |
| Thank you for putting this out there. I have felt alone and wondering if the effort is really woth it, or if an LDR can really truly work. You give hope and intelligent advice. | ||
| Chula | Florida | 2006 Apr 19 03:09 PM |
| hi, i was just checking out your website about LDR and i was just surprise how many other people are in the same situation as me. Last night, i had a talk with the guy i was talking to; he lives in NJ and I live in FL and we've been talking for 8 months straight, but I told him last night that i couldnt take it anymore because i wanted him to be here with me, close. And he was telling me that he didn't want to lose me and that he really cared for me and i meant a lot to him. I told him I need time to think about it. Right now, i feel so confused because there's a side of me that says, dont lose him keeping talking to him and the other side says let him go. I just cried because i didnt know what to do. I wish i can read your book, but i dont have the money right now. I saw how many people thanked u for the book and how it changed their lives. I'm really happy that u gave them the chance to have faith in their relationships. I'm glad there's someone else out there that understands this situation. Well take care and God bless. | ||
| Ramana Murthy | Visakhapatnam (INDIA) | 2006 Apr 13 12:01 AM |
| Hello, Iam Ramana Murthy. i would like to join u siti, Because i like ur messege and ur things and ur oppsion's. try to help my life problem and give a adovice. THANKING YOU MURTHY | ||
| Grant | Illinois | 2006 Apr 12 09:19 AM |
| For everyone in a long distance relationship. I know sometimes its not easy being apart. My girlfriend is 2000 miles away from me. We talk everyday on the phone, not long talks sometimes only 10 minutes or so. Communication is essential ! I know feelings of lonliness can be overwhelming. Its nice to know that there is other folks out there who share our thoughts...Lets keep in touch, remember there is strength in numbers........ | ||
| to Gary | 2006 Apr 11 11:01 AM | |
| The Loving Your Long Distance Relationship site has been online since 11-May-1996. Best wishes in your relationship. Stephen Blake | ||
| Gary | 2006 Apr 11 10:41 AM | |
| Thanks very much for that., how long is this particulat website around? | ||
| to Gary | 2006 Apr 11 09:31 AM | |
| Loving Your Long Distance Relationship was published in July, 1996. | ||
| Gary | 2006 Apr 11 08:35 AM | |
| I came across this site and it is very interesting. can anyone tell me when the book was published? Gary | ||
| cheryl | bristol | 2006 Mar 25 07:37 PM |
| hey robyin, dont worrie about it i was in the same situation once and it worked out well, if you love him that much before you tell him ask him how he feels about you and if he thinks the relationship that you's have at the moment is going anywhere then at least you know how he feels before you tell him how you feel, then that way you save youreself the enbaresment! good luck all my love cheryl xxx | ||
| cheryl | Bristol | 2006 Mar 25 07:24 PM |
| im stuck between my dad and a man i like, the problem is that this guy who is a half cast likes me and i like him a lot but my dad is so racist he told me that i was not aloud to talk to him or give him my number. He's making it so hard for me as i feel stuck in the middle.Im not a racist person, as a matter of fact i love people with dark skin and can't understand why my dad is like the way he is. I don't know what to do should i give him my number or what as i think i should? | ||
| chery williams | bristol | 2006 Mar 16 05:33 PM |
| im so confused, i split with my boyfriend last year and a couple of weeks ago i aske him to get back with me but he thaught i was taking the piss but i was'nn. i love him so much and can't stop thinking of him, then tonight he rang me up asking mr to go to london to see him for the night, burt is he just after his leg or what, i dont know i think no but is that becayuse i love him | ||
| to izia | 2006 Mar 10 06:09 AM | |
| Come on that is hard but simple: leave your cheating bf! sometimes i am surprised at how blind people are in relationships! HE IS CHEATING ON YOU AND YOU LET HIM GET AWAY WITH IT as well as his other gf. have some pride, slap him and then go! | ||
| izia | philippines | 2006 Mar 09 03:24 PM |
| hi! i'm so confused about my situation right now. i really don't know what to do. i need someone to talk to, to give me some advice to help me clear my mind. i love my bf so much that's why i can't break up with him even though he has another gf. i can't break him up because he told me to just wait while he's fixing his mess. me and his other girl are texting, we talk about us, we talk about them. that hurt me so much knowing that they're at the same place while i'm here far from them. but i got used to this situation, im not hurting as much as i used to be hurt before. now i know his other girl's reasons why she cant let go, and she's aware about my reasons too. now we're just waiting for our respective signs wether we stay or let go. but i'm still confused, i just cant wait for that sign blah blah.. texting with the other girl gave me many ideas, conclusions and other things. now many things are roaming around my thoughts and my heart is hurting so badly thinking not only for my own but the "other girl's'" feelings too. i know she's hurting as much as i'm hurting right now coz i she's also like me, we'r both loving and worst we both love the same person. i just wanna give up and let go but evrytime i try, my bf just dont agree.. i dont know, i just dont know.. help me.. izia | ||
| Emera and Taytlor | Here in hell aka Port orchard | 2006 Mar 08 01:11 PM |
| We are both in love with tall things and they both look at us (two natural blondes) as dum little things and yet they love us dearly and too much.. And sometimes they love there friends more then ... then.. uS *muffled cries* *sniffle* But anyways we love eachother like the sisters we want and need... anyways We just felt like saying that love is something that can be found anywhere no matter who they are, as long as you have a mutual care and respect that is how a relationship works, also keep in mind laughter is always KEy if you can't laugh you will have problems but a lack of wrinkles... Talon and Eli | ||
| Julianne | Memphis, TN | 2006 Mar 03 04:05 PM |
| Last summer I came to the startling and surprising realization that I was actually in love with my best friend AND he came to the same realization. The only catch: The 1,100 miles between us and the three years until he retires from his Air Force Career. I have a teenage son who I can't uproot and haul half-way across the country, and a really good job I like here in Memphis. For now, we're doing the Long Distance Relationship thing. Thank God for Instant Messenger, Webcams and mobile-to-mobile cell phone plans or I think we'd both be crazy or broke from phone bills by now. Thanks for this site! | ||
| Jamie | 2006 Feb 27 04:55 PM | |
| heyyy.....i am dating this guy online and i think he's cheating on me....what should i do.....he says he isn't.....but isaw his pic on other girls website....he says there just friend....what shoul i doooo....help me....pleazzz!!! | ||
| Aminah | 2006 Feb 27 12:37 PM | |
| heyyy.....could u help me out.....my bes friend thinks i was talking behing her back....i told her i wasn't but she won't listen....this is hard for me.....pleazzzzzz help me out.....ok......byebye | ||
| shkitko | USA | 2006 Feb 26 02:11 AM |
| Very good site! I like it! Thanks! | ||
| bonita | new york | 2006 Feb 21 10:38 AM |
| Hi. I live in NY where there are plenty of guys to date. Even though I am 33 and look so much younger, I have met a lot of professional guys, but nothing like the guy I met in Kentucky. We met on a dating site. Started talking on the phone since March 05 and off for a few months. Finally in December 05 we finally met in person. I went to KY with a close friend. We met and we had the best weekend ever. Since we talked here are there we knew what to expect. We really liked each other a lot. A week after meeting he went to work for 7 weeks in San Franciso. He text messaged me all the time and called here and there. Now back in KY, we were suppposed to meet last week, and he cancelled b/c of a funeral. I was upset b/c I was doing everything i could to c him. I think the communication was weak on his side, as I believed he was not telling me the truth. A phone call, emails and txt messages, yet I felt there was somethiing else. I told him we should have aimed to become closer friends first before letting attraction run over. We are so attracted to each other that is insane. As I feel I want to forget about him, I got this email from him:" I will always be your friend.....I like you, think you are so wonderful, a beautiful heart you have and very pretty as well. What's is not to like about you? If you were here I would kiss you right now. It sounded perfect but please help me decipher the code. I really truly like him and can see myself with him. But is distance the big problem? Any suggestions are very appreciated. Thanks | ||
| Angela Petersen | Faroe Islands | 2006 Feb 15 12:04 PM |
| Hi :) I was wondering if there is anyone who wants to write e-mails and talk about emotions, experiences, problems and help each other. You see my e-mail by clicking my name. I have a long distance relationship. And I have had it for over a year now. Its hard, but worth it. | ||
| Jc | tx | 2006 Feb 14 06:50 PM |
| HI, my name is Jc and I also have a long distance relationship. SHe and I have been together for over a year, she is the greatest thing thtas ever happened to me, and it hurts to think of what my life would be without her. We've had our ups and downs, like any relationship, but theres is one problem, we've never met before. Thats right, we have a phone relationship, Ive tried to let her go because I cant drop everyting to see her, but then it hurts so much being without her. There are days when its gets real tough cause I know I cant turn around and hold her in my arms, specialy when she needs me. Could someone please give me some advice, cause I dont know how much longer I can go on like this. Thankyou | ||
| Kathia | 2006 Feb 08 05:14 PM | |
| Well...i need some one to give me some advise or something.Well i've been in a long distance relationship for 7 month now and we're planning to see each other on spring break but i'm kindda scare.Cause is not gonna be the same with him there in person i don't know how i'm gonna act or i don't even know what to say or do.So...i need someone to tell me or help me on what to do and say n the day we meet.I have sooooo many question in my head like how he gonna react when he sees me?what he gonna say?Where he will take me?how should i dress?after he sees me r we gonna still be together?Idk someone help me please!!!!!!!! Kathia | ||
| lil_confused_babe015 | 2006 Feb 06 10:42 PM | |
| hey well i need some advice .... its just that ok. my bf moved last february to missouri, n im stuck here in cali. till i turn at least 18 then idk wat college i mtie go 2... maybe one here in cali. the thing is that, before he moved, we were 2gether 4 a year and a half .. then he moved n we kinda ended things, saying that we should have the freedom 2 date whoever we want, since long distance relationships never work out, but we sadid we'd always love eachother. i love him with all my heart n he says he feels the same. since he moved there, i tried dating .. but it never seems to work out. either the guy is a jackass or things dont work out between us. my bf ... x bf ... dated some cheerleader for a couple of months, but then he broke up with her sayin somethin wasnt rite. now hes telling me that he loves me more then n e thing n nothings working out. that he doesent want n e one but me, n no matter how hard, we should try 2 work it out. i feel the exact same way. we talk every day on the phone ... just hearing his voice ... it gives me that just bein struck by love feeling .. like wen u c ur crush walking in the hallway, n u just wanna b wit him so bad but u cant ... n idk wat 2 do n e more. if we do get back 2gether ... idk when we would get 2 hang out or n e thing. hes really far away, n idk wat to do. i asked some girls from there, wen hed have a party at his house, id ask them about how he acts, n theyd say he tells n e girl thats interested that he loves someone. even the girl i talked to. she said she wanted him but said he loved a girl named , my name. n idk wat to do n e more ... =( i mean, hes the sweetest guy i met, n i know he would never cheat on me, it didnt happen in the year n a half wen we were 2gether, n he never lied 2 me, since the 2 years, and a half, almost 3 i known him. please u guys, if u have n e advice on wat i should do, please get back at me ok ? ? thanks sooooo much. .. | ||
| robyn abrahams | 2006 Feb 05 07:45 PM | |
| hello all, thank you for the site. I have a reverse question for you all. Any comments? I have a relationship with my former employee and current fellow manager. I need advice, I love him very much | ||
| Angie | 2005 Nov 21 04:12 PM | |
| Maybe, for some of you, this will give you hope. I started a long distance relationship in 1982, with 500 miles between Jim and I. We went through all the things mentioned here, long distance phone calls (before cell phones) and we wrote long heartfelt letters to each other. We went through the ups and downs of building trust, dating others while our hearts really belonged to each other, and we finally came to see that we wanted to be married 2 1/2 years later. I was a single mother with a little gilr that was only 10 months old when we met. The month after we married, he filed for her adoption, and through the years we added two sons and this past March celebrated our 20th Anniversary. He still works away for 28 days at a time on a tug/barge. We see each other 14 days and then he is off again. We have found that true love, trust and persistence is the key to making it work. LOVE is the key. We were 24/28 when we began...we are now 51/48 and grandparents! It can work! | ||
| Sharon | NY, USA | 2005 Nov 17 06:33 PM |
| I recently heard from my man on the west coast. We talked about why I felt I had to end our relationship (because of him not communicating with me). We said when he left me last that when he got back to his office, there was a ton of work for him to do, so he didn't have time to contact me. Now he wants to meet me in NY in January. I tell myself it isn't a very smart move for me but the other half really wants to see him. I hope I have the strength to tell him why I won't be able to meet him. I just don't understand. I really should get out of this relationship for good. When we leave each other, I don't think it really bothers him all that much. And I miss him terribly. It really is sucky. | ||
| Anubhuti | Trinidad and Tobago | 2005 Nov 06 11:29 AM |
| Hi.. today is one of those BAD days when all i want to do is kick the one i love.... i am in an aweful mood and worse is that i know i won't b able to speak to him atleast until tomorrow... and this is making me feel worse... i don't know if this is what every one feels every once in a while but well... i found a poem which gave me hope... am putting it here, it might help some one else too... God bless... Love remains when doubts come It lingers in times of pain Love is there when we are angry Love will always remain. Harsh words are sometimes spoken Our hearts may feel broken Some days are nothing but rain In spite of this love remains. | ||
| Liz | Canada | 2005 Nov 06 10:09 AM |
| Hi! I have been reading many of your posts and have realized that I'm not alone, thank you. I met the man of my dreams while on a conference in CA, he was there from AZ. We were at a reception of over 700 people and as he says, he picked me out of the crowd. What an incredible evening it was, before we knew it, the sun was coming up! We were supposed to meet for breakfast the next morning, but that didn't happen! Luckily he had given me his business card and I emailed him when I returned home. Since that magical night, I think there has only been one day that I have not spoken to him. We email during the day and speak on the phone at night, sometimes its a quick conversation...sometimes they last for hours! I will be with him for New Years and have already started counting the days. Somedays I think the pain of not being with him is too much to bare, but other days, I can't imagine my life without him. I never dreamed I would be in a relationship as "odd" as this, but love knows no distance. | ||
| Anubhuti | Trinidad and Tobago | 2005 Nov 02 01:59 PM |
| Dear Sharon, i am sorry to hear about ur pain... i know how it feels coz i have gone through the same and i remember telling myself never again! but u know wht? i am in yet another LDR but this time i know who the he is... we've known eachother for years... this time it is I who had to go away from him and not the other way around.. it's tough but when u know it's about to end soon, it becomes bareable... i mean... each day that goes by brings us closer to the day we reunite rt?... don't give up on love... the one who can truly cherish u and love u will come around... just detox ur self in the meantime... let the memories of a failed relationship get cleansed ur system... God Bless... | ||
| Nina | Holland | 2005 Oct 28 05:27 AM |
| Hello there, My boyfriend is 22 years old, and I am 17. He is coming from Uganda. When I met him, he was in Holland, to record a cd. He is a musician. Playing traditional music from Uganda, over the hole world. Exactly today, we have a long distance relationship for 1 year now :-) Because he is a musician, we have the possiblility to meet in Holland, or other places in Europe. Also I was suppose to go in July to Uganda, to meet his family, and to see the way he is living. I was really interested in this. Because of the culture differents between us. Unfortunately I didn't go, because they refuse to give me a visa on time! But right now, we are booking a ticket, for the coming summer, to go there. And please remember, even when youc can't be toghter now, you will always be together in your hearts! With Love Nina | ||
| Mina | Antwerp, Belgium | 2005 Oct 24 06:06 PM |
| Hello everyone! Im a 20-year old young woman from Antwerp and my situation is a little bit different. Let me tell you why. I met the love of my life in 2002. When he used to live in Belgium also. The moment I laid eyes on him and after a while talked to him, I knew he was the one for me! I totally saw myself, going through a relationship with him and spend my life with him! After 2 or 3 months of seeing eachother, getting to know eachother, he told me while holding me in his arms that he had to leave. He wanted to study in the United States and persue his basketball carreer. I was very sad that tears started to fall... He told me, ever since from the beginning, that he didn't want to get in any relationship at that time, because he would probably go away. But I was so in love with him, that I just cherished every moment I could spend with him and did not think about that! Ever since he left, we kept on e-mailing eachother, calling eachother, text eachother... He visits his family on breaks and when he do, he comes and visit me too! So it's not like I never get to see him! We both talked about it and decided that a LDR can't work for the both of us. It's a really weird situation. He lives his life over there and I live mine. After his studies, when he comes back, we'll talk and see what to do. Even though I know he meets other girls, and do things with them (because he tells me these things) I still love him! Beacause he told me that, out of all the girls he met around the globe, I would be the one he wants to settle down with. As much as he and I would like to, it's not possible now. So, it has been almost 3 years now I know him, loved him and cared for him. And yes, I still think he's the one for me! And now, in january I'm going over to Iowa to visit him and celebrate New Year's Eve with him! Wich bring me a big smile on my face!!! I wish all the luck to myself and to every person who is in a LDR! I truly have loads of respect for you guys! Greetings from Belgium PS: I would appre | ||
| Sharon | NY,USA | 2005 Oct 23 06:26 PM |
| Hi.....I just broke off a 7 mo LDR. I fell really hard for this guy. We met on-line an chatted with each other for a few mos before we finally met each other. He lives out west and I am on the east coast. I was really crazy over him and I really thought he felt the same. Maybe he did. We spent 3 beautiful days together before he had to go back. He has a very demanding job and is very busy all the time so our relationship only consisted of IM'ing and occasional phone call. We met again recently but it seemed something was not the same. We had two nights together and then we had to leave. I didn't hear from him as much as before and I missed him terribly. Our relationship suffered from neglect and little communication. I decided to end it because I found out that even when he had the time he didn't bother to get in touch with me...I guess that meant that he didn't miss me. I will get over it in time but it is hard. I wouldn't do a LDR again. Thanks for listening. | ||
| @ nina | 2005 Oct 23 10:46 AM | |
| how old are you? where in africa does he live? | ||
| Nina | Holland | 2005 Oct 22 12:58 PM |
| Dear everyone, I am happy to have the upportunity, to share my experience with all of you. I have a relationship with a boy from Afrika. I don't know how many miles it is away, but I think I can call it a long distance relationship!! I have to say, that it is not always very easily. And at some days, I am really down. But when he land at the airport, and I can put my hands around him, I am sure I never want to end it.... I just want to send a lot of power, to everyone, who is in the same condition. Don't give up. And enjoy the love, what is always around you. Nina | ||
| a guy | 2005 Oct 20 04:57 AM | |
| I am listening to a lot of girls on here pour out their hearts and it is very sweet.... BUT an important point for a lot of you lovelorn girls is this LOVE CAN BE BLIND. A lot of guys think its great to be in a LDR because it is like the first time every time they are together again. They dont really have to get emotionally involved with a woman and they can do whatever they like when they are gone. The girl is just so happy to see her boyfriend again after being apart that she is blind to him very often being a jerk! I know this is not true of everyone and please excuse me if I am offending you. but these girls who say things like "it is great to get a break from each other sometimes" need to be careful as that doesnt sound very health for a relationship to me. Also these people who say things like "we talk almost every week" are you kidding me??? thats nothing! If I really loved a girl I want to talk every day at least!!! I mean no matter where you are in the world nowadays it is not that expensive to talk on the phone for a few minutes every day. I just want to say one more thing especially to the girls out there .... dont always be making the moves - let him do some of the work - if he loves you he will if not he won't Good luck everybody and God Bless | ||
| Karen | New Jersey | 2005 Oct 16 08:13 PM |
| Hello from New Jersey. Don't know what more I can add that hasn't been said already about LDRs. I've been in one for 3 years now and there are days when I just feel like packing it all in because it's soooooo difficult sometimes. My man is in Ireland; he has family obligations (an ill widowed mother and disabled brother) that keep him there and some days I can't help but think what it COULD be like if situations weren't so difficult. We started out as friends for 8 months, met in England when I went there to celebrate my birthday and he's come over to see me twice (and meet my family). I've been there to Ireland twice already -- and met and spent time with his family. But the months that pass are longer than long sometimes. I think the secret to keeping a LDR alive is constant communication and total commitment. We speak on the average of 3 times a week (for at least an hour each time), with e-mails in between and at least 1 daily text message. I'm the more romantic of the pair and like to send care packages and sentimental cards. I do get packages from him also. None of us knows what's around the corner but I have NO REGRETS about our relationship! For the record, I'm 52 and he's 42 -- a nice blend :) Love you so much, Kiddo. | ||
| Andrew Lim | Canada | 2005 Oct 14 08:27 PM |
| Hi All, I read quite a few "story of the week" testimonies of people engaged in long distance relationships. The thing I don't understand is, who picks the stories? I submitted a story that I actually took time to go through, but it was never posted. I don't really care about that, and I won't even go into detail about what I wrote about. I'm just curious if whoever chooses the story, might actually post it, after making modifications to make it suit what he/she/they want for this mailing list. There was one such article that came out the week after I submitted my entry. I twas strikingly similar, but my name, sex, and location seemed to be changed. Hmmm.. I will write more in the discussion forum... | ||
| Rebekah | Michigan | 2005 Oct 14 02:26 PM |
| Hi all. I just wanted to say that I am in a current long distance relationship with a military recruiter out of the Austin TX area. I am used to long distance relationships because many of mine have been with those in the military. But I love it. I support him in everything that he does, as well as he supports me. It's great to be in a long distance relationship because you take advantage of the time that you actually do get to see each other. However, the flip side, you could go so long without seeing each other and then not know how to react to one another when you do spend time together. But as for now, I'm loving every second of it. | ||
| me | 2005 Oct 13 03:57 AM | |
| sure, it is awesome for NOW......A thing i never understand though is why people enjoy breaks from their partner! why do people get sick of each other? that is weird. | ||
| Lou- LW | 2005 Oct 13 01:22 AM | |
| HEY GUYS, i just wanna say im in a long distance relationship and I LOVE IT!! i mean of course it is hard work, but the guy i am in it with i am so in love with i am 13 and we r already saying we wanan spend the rest of our life together!!! i am soooooooo in love with him we have lots of contact of course its such hard work caz im always missing him but the space from him when he is away is of course a nice break other wise we will just get sick of each other fast!! so give it ago its AWEOSME:D goodluck!!!!!!! mwa xoxoxoxooxox LW..4..JG | ||
| crazyol'me | 2005 Sep 13 06:42 PM | |
| Hi. sitting in front of the monitor i dont know what to say and what not to. just want to pour my heart out. my husband and i have been away from each other for the last 3 years. we met 2 and a half yr back. he had to leave for his job. and i am unable to go with him due to immigration laws. i try hard not to let him feel my loneliness.he calls me every day,makes me feel spl but now after these tough years i am shattered. tried a visitor's visa but the american guys are tougher than their laws. saw the prejudice...i guess that tore me...dont know what to say... i am heartbroken and i just know i will die without my husband. according to laws... i still have to wait for another 2 years. laws are made for ppl yet we suffer. i wish no one goes through this ever | ||
| me | 2005 Aug 17 02:44 AM | |
| Never take your old problems onto a new man! that is my advice! every man should get a new chance and not suffer under some ex-bf's mistakes! | ||
| Chhandita | 2005 Aug 17 02:03 AM | |
| I was in a LDR for 4 years but broke up this feb because i discovered he was cheating on me...it was a bad situation but i managed to deal wit it and now even after promising myself never to get into a LDR, i m in love wit a guy who lives in another part of d country...he is just amazing and i cant help but be in love...but daubts creep in time and agn...i dnt know wot to do....its harming our relation although he understands why i feel insecure but i know each time i daubt him he gets hurt...wot shud i do??? | ||
| kate | 2005 Aug 16 03:59 AM | |
| Hi Laura, It is not as hard as it seems. My bf lives 2 hrs away from me BY PLANE and we see each other maybe once in two months. I know it is hard with a kid but be positive: every weekend is great - I would not call this LDR but weekend-relationship. It is a good start to get to know someone and to see how he is dealing with the situation. Look at it as a test to find out if he is worth it - if he can wait for you. Dont rush into anything. Wait and see. All the best. | ||
| LAURA | north carolina | 2005 Aug 15 03:11 PM |
| i need some advice. i am 27 years old. i have a 7 yr old son. I have been divorced for 3 yrs now and have not dated anyone since. i have recently found someone that i am very interested in dating. i have not wanted to date since i have been divorced but there is something that i really like about this man. we get along great. there is one problem, he lives 1 1/2 hrs away from me. we are not able to see each other during the week due to both of our jobs. he comes to see me on the weekends, but it is hard being a single mother. i can't always go to see him because i don;t have anyone to watch my son. we really want this relationship to work. does anyone have any suggestions on what we can do to make it work? please help!! | ||
| me | 2005 Aug 10 05:48 AM | |
| @ Emma, please forgive me my words but your bf seems like a jerk to me! why would someone that loves you put pressure on you by wanting to move on too fast??? that is not fair! you need someone that treats you with respect and accepts what you want, too. it is giving and taking and he has to respect that. and to be honest, someone that does not care for his gf really, won't care in future either and i am sure, he is gonna hurt you if he wont change completely. i mean, he wants you to get drunk but you don't - where is the fairness when he then calls you boring? he needs to grow up and the physical stuff you are talking about: that is not what it is about in a relationship! It is about trust and patience and respect, too. does he have all these things? a LDR only works if you can trust him and dont have to worry until you feel sick and cant study anymore. he needs to become more mature about relationships. it seems, as for him, it only looks like a fun game. well, that is what it looks like. believe me - i know that type of guy and i regret each single minute with him! they are all the same. find someone proper. someone that is worth it. all the best | ||
| Hope | New York | 2005 Aug 03 02:11 AM |
| I don't know what the hell I'm doing with this new long distance relationship I'm in w/ this guy I met from Arlington VA. We've only been together a few times but in those few times I feel that I really connected w/ him. He says he feels the same and that he will come to NY to visit. To be honest I don't think I've ever hit it off with someone this well this early. And traveling four and a half hours to go see him does'nt even fase me. Every time we are together we seem to just "click". I have anxiety about wanting to get to know him better and talking on the phone does'nt cut it. I'm the type of person who has to have that one on one contact to really asses what the other person is like. I don't know what to do. Sometimes I want to forget about it and sometimes I feel like it's worth it to put forth the effort to go see him. So I guess what I'm saying for me the time it takes to go see him isn't the issue, it's the funding and for him it's more about the time. So what ever happens, happens and I guess it'll work out if it's meant to be. | ||
| Emma | Scotland | 2005 Jul 29 04:44 AM |
| Hey Im looking for some advice. My bf and i are about to become Long Distance - im moving to the North for Uni and he is moving out of Scotland and into England. Am just worried we wont be strong enough to hold it together. He's really good at all the "physical" stuff and he can be really really sweet, but sometimes he just acts like an immature kid. He won't listen to me when i tell him i don't really wanna get drunk, and seems to judge me as boring because of that. And tho, like I said he's good at the "physical" stuff, sometimes i think he wants to move us along more quickly than im ready for. It really hurts me coz i love him a lot and he says he does as well. Am afraid that if we go off to Uni still attached we will end up spliting far more painfully than we might otherwise. I don't really wanna give him up, but I also don't want my first few months at uni to be hell when am not sure if we would make it even if we stayed at home. Anyway, i think ive gone on enough, any words of advice would be great thank you :) Emma | ||
| Noel | Germany | 2005 Jul 29 02:32 AM |
| I am in a long distance relationship and personally I think it is very exciting...getting up checking my email hoping to have an email in my box....or chillen at home and recieving a phone call...its great...I do admit that it is alot of work....there are no days off....it gets hard for me...because he is my best friend...and the military doesnt care that Im in love...lol...but he will be back...then Im moving so we will have two years until we get to be with each other forever!! Pray for us and that everything works out! I love you baby! ~me~ | ||
| Tiffany Hale | 2005 Jul 19 12:56 PM | |
| I have a long distance realationship and it is going really good.. But a realtionship isn't well unless you have trust and that is one thing that i don't have for my boyfriend.. Even though he has never played me(or so i think) but um it is still hard i still have my days when i just feel like he is playin me.. But um i try to get that out of my head but you know sometimes it is just hard.. And if some of you gurls feel like this sometimes then you would know what it feels like... Well if you gurls have any advice for me i would like to hear it so please send it to me i would appreciate it... My e-mail address is Tiffanyhale2003@yahoo.com | ||
| ..rachel.. | 2005 Jul 05 01:09 PM | |
| Hey yall!.. i have been in a relationship with a guy for 4 years.. we've never really went out or dated ..and thats the weird part.. b/c hes like my best friend but its more than that.. we met when i was like 11.. and he was my first kiss and i'm almost 16.. but we met in a campground.. haha and we've been talking i guess you could say on and off for like 4 years.. and were like best friends.. and he lives 2 hours away.. and thats not THAT far away, but it is when you cant drive yet to meet him somewhere.. and if you really love somebody then, it shouldnt matter where they live.. i mean yeah, we fight a lot.. and its bad but when were just talking.. its great i could talk to him for ever and not get bored..i love talking to him and i've seen him a few times after i met him.. i've seen him like 6 or 7 times.. which is pretty good i think-but you shouldnt think about being able to see somebody ..its really about what you feel~ | ||
| me | 2005 Jun 25 01:15 PM | |
| @ Lilia Why do you think about that? I mean, about seeing someone after so long again. | ||
| Lilia | Philippines | 2005 Jun 25 06:59 AM |
| Hello again friends! I forgot to mention in my first guestbook entry that I'm only 20 and Harley's 21... that I'm a Filipina and he's an American... but aside from those differences, we both think and act so much alike. We started out as good friends that's why have constant and open communication. I miss him so much, that if I could get a chance to travel halfway across the world right now just to be with him, I instantly will. But I've got my studies to take care of here first, before I fly off to be with him again. Just wanna share my story of LDR... again, goodluck to us all! A Question for those interested: What happens when you're involved in a LDR, and unfortunately, it doesn't work... no matter how hard you try. What happens when you see that person again after such a long time like years of not seeing each other. What is the supposed to be "reaction" for such a situation? Well, I know it depends on the circumstances and if both parties still love each other... but I just like to know... any answers are welcome. Thanks! | ||
| Lilia | Philippines | 2005 Jun 25 06:31 AM |
| hello! I'm currently a nursing student here in my country and I'm involved in a long distance relationship for more than a year with my boyfriend, Harley, who's in the USA right now. Harley and I met last year in Grand Canyon around May 2004, when I worked there for a 4 month contract as an intern with an exchange visitor visa. When my contract expired, I have to go back home to continue my studies. It's been almost a year since I last saw Harley and I really miss him so much. We've only been together for a month back in Grand Canyon, but somehow it seems forever rather than a very short span of time. It's so tough being in this kind of relationship. You have to put on a lot of trust and commitment to keep the relationship going. Honestly, there are times where I would doubt our strength as a couple (just being realistic of our situation here), but when I look back and remember all those wonderful times we had together and also the fact that we're consistent about our commitment to each other, my feelings for him would grow deeper and strengthen even more. I guess, one of the reasons why Harley and I are still going strong and holding on, is because we're similar in so many ways, most especially from the way we think maturely, the way we care about family and friends and so much more. Even though we both have different cultural backgrounds and traditions (since he's American), it's not really a matter differences but more of the similarities that we have. I just hope and pray that this kind of bond that Harley and I have is strong enough to keep us together in mind and heart, until the right time for us to see each other again (when I graduate college). Now that I know that there a people out there who's in the same boat as I am, I'm proud to say that long distance relationship does work. Good luck to us all! | ||
| Maggy | Mexico | 2005 Jun 25 03:25 AM |
| Hi Fred i agree with the others, dont send her money, dont think is a good idea honestly, try to test her, and try to ask her about why she does lose her jobs, or whats her plan for her life, with and without you, some girls had just one plan in life and is to find a guy that support them financialy, if she is not calling you aske her the reasons, do you have online contact too?, there is many things you should talk to her about this, this only can be fixed by talking. PD sorry for my english | ||
| Katy | 2005 Jun 23 02:43 AM | |
| Hi Kath, Earthquakes and hurricanes ... sounds exciting - not! ;) We've had a few earthquakes, too, in the last few years. But not very strong ones. I am sure you will find out soon about what he really wants, won't you? Let me know as soon as you know more. :) have a great day there in the Golden State! | ||
| Katherine | 2005 Jun 23 12:42 AM | |
| Hello Katy. I don't care that you are 22! It's nice to get a "young person's perspective"! I have just decided to be calm and cool about it. What else can I do? Call me stupid maybe? :) California has had a lot of minor earthquakes lately - - yuck! Kath | ||
| katy | 2005 Jun 22 06:09 AM | |
| Hey Kath, I am 22 only. I hope that is ok.... :) well, I don't know. I would not be happy if my bf would not have my in his life at some point. I don't like that idea. I would keep asking and tell him to answer my question so you can relax again about the whole thing, you know? But it is hard to tell ... difficult situation. What is your plan? Enjoy Cali. Welcome to Europe anytime! :) If you ever go to England don't miss out on Cornwall. For me, that is the only place to go really in England - unless you don't like the countryside. :) | ||
| Katherine | 2005 Jun 22 12:25 AM | |
| I agree with "me" Fred. Don't send her a dime and see how she treats you in the new few weeks. You don't want a gold digger no matter how much you seem to care about her. Kath | ||
| Katherine | 2005 Jun 22 12:23 AM | |
| Hi Katy - I am a bit on the old side! I am 40 and my guy is 42. You would think being at a mature age he would slow down and bit and enjoy life a little more like I do! I love Florida but it's been hot here too and the hurricanes freak me out. I have never been to Europe but would love to visit there someday. I would particularly like to visit Italy, France & England. Well my guy called me again yesterday. He told me that he loves being with me, talking to me, etc. etc. etc. and told me never to worry about a thing. He told me to always tell him when something like that is on my mind. Every chance he gets he will make it happen. But........he still didn't answer my questions from my phone message!!!!!!! That is all that I got. I know he's worth it (as far as I feel) but do you think I should accept not getting a direct answer to my questions? I told him in my message if things have changed on his end we can just be friends if that is what he wants now. But I've told you in the past, he would have told me already if he really felt this way. I want to settle for this I guess without him not directly answering my thoughts. I think he cares a lot but is just too busy right now to have me in his life at this point and doesn't want to let me go? What would you do or think Katy??? Kath | ||
| me | 2005 Jun 21 02:49 AM | |
| Don't send her money Fred! I think she might be using you! Test her by not sending anything and see if she still calls | ||
| Katy | 2005 Jun 21 02:48 AM | |
| Hello Kath, Nice talking to you. How old are you by the way? Good he finally talked to you again. I think it was good to have left a message. Well done. You need to know what is going on ... Don't worry about it. I think you did the right thing. Wow, Florida! I went there last year and I loved it and Cali is the next State I would want to see! Honestly. But so far I only saw Florida and it was amazing! You are two lucky ones to live in such beautiful places! :) But very far, huh? Yeah, Switzerland is great, too. Very hot right now which is nice! Ever been to Europe? My bf lives in Ireland but he stayed with me for a few months to learn my language. He is back home again now and I miss him a lot! I will see him soon again though. We are lucky enough to have a cheap airline flying between Dublin and Zurich. :) We've been together for a year now. Talk to you soon, Katy | ||
| Katherine | 2005 Jun 21 01:02 AM | |
| Well Katy, he finally phoned me last night. We only spoke for a few minutes just catching up on day to day stuff. He's been traveling so much it's not even funny. I wanted to say some things and never got to because he had to go. I left him a message tonight and asked him if he still wants to see me on the same basis - as in dating or just wants to be friends. Just my insecure self speaking again. I guess I just don't know where I stand in his life & I finally want to know. I never considered myself his g/f but he said we were an "item" in the past so maybe he means that. Who knows. I'm so darn confused. Now I'm just waiting to see what he has to say. My voicemail was the best I could have said it all. But now I feel weird that I left the message. I am from California. He lives in Florida but travels a lot to Europe & travels the US constantly. Tell me more about your LDR. Switzerland sounds exciting! Kath | ||
| Sarah | 2005 Jun 20 09:27 PM | |
| Fred grow up. If you love her you should know the reason why she’s acting like she does. Have you talked to her about it? Maybe it’s you that has a problem not her. But I guess you love her because you’ve helped her out many times, I don’t see the problem. I think trust is a factor in your life. I think you need to work on that part of yourself. | ||
| Fred | 2005 Jun 20 05:29 PM | |
| Hi In the beginning of October of 2004 (8 months now) I met a girl online. She was in the process of getting divorced. She’s in the US and I’m in Scandinavia, Denmark. We fell in love with each other, and talked everyday. Because I had a web cam and she had one it helped in the process to get to know one another. We talked for 3 months before any plans where made. We even had phone sex after 2 months. My first time. The day came and I both my ticket to the US. My friends warned me not to go and get involved with her. They told me that she was only going to use me like a ”bridge” to get over her husband. I didn’t care, I left Norway on the 7th of January this year (2005). I ended up staying in the US for almost 3 months. We had fun despite her process of getting a divorce. We even planed to get married. During the time we spent together I got attached to her kids too. I care and love them now like they are my own. The day came and I had to go home. She cried the day before we left for the airport. I told her I’ll be back. Well I’ve been home for 3 months now. We’ve had our problems during this time. We’ve broke up 4 times over the phone, and 3 of them was because of me. Yes I know it sounds crazy but we still want to be together. She has told me many times that she has never felt like this for anyone. But I got one problem. She does not have a job and when she has one she looses it. I’ve helped her out by sending her money a few times. She called me on Friday starting bitching about being broke. She did that Saturday, Sunday and Today Monday. We talked and I told her that I could send her some money again to help her out. Didn’t take long before she told me that she had to hang up because she felt sleepy. Before she hang up she told me that she was going to call me when she woke up. Did she call? Nope. I wonder what do to, should I send the money or not? I feel that she just calls me sometimes when she only needs something from me. This has happened a few times. Please help me out, am I being kept for a fool | ||
| Katy | 2005 Jun 20 02:51 AM | |
| Switzerland. My bf is from Great Britain. Yes, one month is odd ..... that must be awful! I wish I knew why that is .... I would really ask him why he does not get in touch with you for so long! he can't do that! you are his gf! where do you live in the states? and where does he live? | ||
| Kath | 2005 Jun 19 11:39 PM | |
| Thanks again Katy. I know in my heart everything is ok but I haven't heard from him in a month and that is so odd. What part of Europe are you from? Is your boyfriend in the US? Kath | ||
| Katy | Europe | 2005 Jun 19 09:01 AM |
| Hey Kath, Yes, I understand that. I am like you, too. I live in a LDR. It is not easy to be apart and especially when it has been a while since you saw each other last, you become insecure and you start doubting the other person's feelings. Our imagination is very mean then sometimes. I think it is always important to focus on the facts and if you know that he would tell you if something was wrong, then keep telling yourself this and you will calm down again in your heart. But it is true, it is hard to find out what a feeling and what a fact is .... | ||
| Katherine | 2005 Jun 18 03:32 PM | |
| Hey Katy! I like talking to you! I actually can deal with it for now. I am very busy myself & actually am enjoying my "self" time these days since I haven't had much of that in the past. He's told me before that he won't be doing this forever. But what I guess makes me insecure is that I know he really, really likes me, respects me, etc. and we have known each other on a "friend" basis for quite some time. I know he's busier than when we first got together a year ago and we don't see each other or talk as much as before. But I just take it personally, even though I shouldn't. He's the type to say what he feels flat out and if he didn't want to see me anymore, he would tell me. I am just insecure with it thinking he doesn't want me anymore! I'm silly! Kath | ||
| Katy | 2005 Jun 18 02:02 PM | |
| Hey Kath, I guess he is a workaholic? You know, if you can get along with that and love him the way he is I think you should give it a try. but if you feel you could not live like that forever then you should maybe think about being with him unless he wants to change that in future? what do you think? it is hard to tell from here since I don't know him ... | ||
| Katherine | 2005 Jun 18 12:20 AM | |
| PS - He is out of the country a lot these days as well! | ||
| Katherine | 2005 Jun 17 12:13 PM | |
| He started being a work-horse at a very young age. He is busy with business right now because he has to, not necessarily wants to. He does a bunch of things and wants to get out of some of them. To do so he has to work a lot on his other ventures now. I really don't want to "give him up". I just miss him and wish that things were back to the way it was a year ago. | ||
| HELP | 2005 Jun 17 05:37 AM | |
| LIKE THE SITE STEFF I THINK U SHOULD STAY WIV HIM | ||
| steff potts | 2005 Jun 17 05:33 AM | |
| im 15 i only see my b-friend every other week and my friends tell me its a wast of time i love him tho were realli close and my mate dont cum wiv me anymore 2 c im so i go on my own wat should i do plz help should i listen 2 my friends or my HEART?????? | ||
| Katy | 2005 Jun 17 03:07 AM | |
| Yeah, that looks very confusing to me. :( I guess it is best to wait and see for a little more while and if you really don't want this anymore you should tell him again. Is he that busy by choice or really just because he has to do it? I mean, does he enjoy being so busy? | ||
| Katherine | 2005 Jun 16 09:48 PM | |
| Thanks Katy your reply. I've tried both ideas in the past. At least twice, I sent him a text msg or left a voicemail and told him he's too busy for me & I don't know if I want to do this anymore. He would call me within seconds and tell me everything would be okay & he doesn't want me to feel that way. Also, I've ignored him for weeks at a time and he always calls or txts before I do. So you see why now I'm very confused?????? Katherine | ||
| Katy | 2005 Jun 16 08:44 AM | |
| Hey Kath, I think only you can tell if he is serious about you or not. Ask him straight away and you will be able to tell by his answer and reaction to the question what he feels. Maybe you should try and ignore him, too, and see if he wonders and worries then or not ... All the best with that. | ||
| Katherine | 2005 Jun 15 11:15 AM | |
| I wasn't sure if you were talking to me or the other person. I met him through a mutual friend 8 years ago. Katherine | ||
| me | 2005 Jun 15 05:30 AM | |
| ps. where did you meet him? | ||
| me | 2005 Jun 15 05:29 AM | |
| How old are you Sharazad? I know it is very difficult with the Muslim religion thing. I guess if your family is very strict you don't really have another choice than choosing between them and him. But maybe they will accept it one day? Keep trying. But be prepared of falling out with your family. I know what I am talking about ... All the best and keep us updated! | ||
| Katherine (again) | 2005 Jun 15 02:27 AM | |
| I forgot to mention in my post below that we both live in the United States but far, far away from each other. | ||
| Katherine | 2005 Jun 15 02:25 AM | |
| For the past year, I have been seeing a guy I've known for 8 years. We were always acquaintances and when he knew I was single he called me and asked me out. The first few months of seeing each other he called and text messaged me a million times a day. We saw each other every other week (for 2 days at a time) for 4 months straight. He is a businessman and travels out of the country a lot. But this didn't start as much until after we were seeing each other for almost 6 months. He still calls, txt msgs, almost every week but sometimes it could be not for 3 weeks to a month. About a month ago, he said we were going to see each other (he said it, not me) and it didn't happen due to him going out of the country. HELP!!!!!! Do you think he's blowing me off & isn't being a man & telling me??? Kath | ||
| sharazad | Egypt | 2005 Jun 14 06:15 AM |
| Hi there i have a big love in my life ,one that put a fire in my heart and a peace in my life.one that made me feel whole,despite of not speaking in one languge or living in the same country we fall for each other.MY love is FORBBIDEN iam moslim egyption and he is american not moslim.and i tried so hard to stop falling for him ,not to talk to him ever again.he did the same too but the thing we have united our heart forever.i don't know what to do how i can make my family accept him, even my relagiouse forbbid me to marry him..i love him and that the one i want to have my own family with ..plz help me with ur advice or mail me.thans alot | ||
| princess | nj | 2005 Jun 09 06:29 PM |
| im living in nj and my boyfriend lives in va | ||
| Maxwell | Uganda | 2005 Jun 08 01:24 PM |
| hi, i can not believe what relieve i have got after reading stories of my friends in long distance relatioships, i have been in this for over four years but the road has not been easy and at one point i felt like it can not work, my girlfriend is in london and am far away in Uganda but we have been communicating for the past four years but so far we have not met and i have always wondered if this is truely a relationship.But reading all the stories about experiences people have gone through then it gives some hope that may be if mine can work.Thank you for those wonderful experiences. | ||
| Brian Maloney | USA | 2005 Jun 04 12:03 AM |
| Hello, have read bits and pieces of the ebook from a friend who has it and I must say I like your concepts and ideas on how to make them last. I will be opening up a sectioin in my website for long dis., do you have a aff prog.? If so, just email me with the details. Thanks, Brian Maloney valueprep.com | ||
| Maggy | Mexico | 2005 May 26 04:26 AM |
| Hi all, i just find out about this side, sorry for my english im mexican, i have a LDR, i meet my bf playing an online game, im 25 he is 28, we meet finally in person last November, since that visited me in January and March and comes again in June (well i hope), im glad to read all this stories cause i was feeling a little depress cause i need him so much, and sometimes i dunno what to do, and i feel like trapped, cause i cant go visit him and i wish i could and i apply for a visa and was denied, so i need to wait till he can come again, and i feel lost and alone, and we want to get marry but as he is american and im mexican papers takes along time and its also expensive, and i need to be patiente, i just order the book today cause i wanna read it, cause i need to hold into something, im thankfull to find this site and see im not alone in same situation Good Luck to all i know what is to wait and to be alone but i know all would be worth it, when we finally together forever | ||
| C. | Mexico | 2005 May 25 04:18 PM |
| Hi everybody! Just wanted to let you know I really like this site! It's the 1º time I write a message, but I have received your newsletter the last month and it helps to see I'm not alone in this world. I've been in a LDR for the past 14 months: I live in MX and he lives in FL.. These have been the best 14 months of my life and we really are looking forward to being together for good. We travel constantly, seeing each other ever 4 weeks +/- but it's still hard! I just returned yesterday from a week down with him: he even took me on a surprise weekend trip! =) I really think that in order to have a successful LDR both persons should be very committed, honest and communicative - it has work great for us! ...have lots of hope and try to make the best out of this situation.... Sooner or later we (you and your beloved) will be together forever!!! Take care and I really wish you guys the best in your LDR's!!! = ) C. | ||
| mal | england | 2005 May 24 05:45 AM |
| Hi all, hope you are all enjoying life at the moment. im flying over to Ohio on sunday to be with my love for 3 whole weeks!! i cant wait to get there!! lol | ||
| Allie | Southern Ca., Ar, and NY | 2005 May 20 10:17 PM |
| Hi kids,just your local brattyangel just checking in. Hope everyone is doing well.I moved from Ca. to NJ, and yes my long term freind and the man I adore is here. Just gave him a wink as I type.I've changed location and careers too. I dont know what the new career is going to be.Yes, I hung my halo up for now. lol Well only when I have too. ta ta for now... Allie | ||
| mal | england | 2005 May 18 06:34 PM |
| hi bree, the best thing you can do is discuss this with your parents and see if they will talk to his parents to arrange to meet up..supervised of course. this is what i did with my daughter who is 14 and her boyfriend is 14 too. | ||
| bree | houston tx | 2005 May 17 11:58 PM |
| I met my 16 year old boyfriend online(blackplanet.com) i want to see him so bad but he live in Arlington,Texas and i live in houston tx and i'm only 14 WHAT SHOULD I DO? | ||
| mal | england | 2005 May 15 10:00 AM |
| angel, if its meant to be then you will see each other. we talk all day every day online and even call each other on the phone when we are on our way home from the store!! we dont doubt our love and feelings for each other.its just the same as im working away for so long then come home for a few weeks. thats how we get through. | ||
| Angel | USA | 2005 May 12 09:01 AM |
| Mal: How did you do it... I am in an LDR and it's the opposite... I am here in the states and he is in England? Sometimes I feel like it's not worth it but then I'll read an email or a letter he sent me and I feel fluttery inside and a smile would appear on my face. I have seen him in a year and I feel lost. What's your secret? Part of me wants to go see him but I feel that I'm giving way to much of myself if I do because I don't see him doing the same. Even though he tells me in emails, on the phone and in hand written letters that He loves me and can't wait to be with me. I still feel it's not true. Does anyone feel like in an LDR. That the relationship isn't real? | ||
| mal | england | 2005 May 11 04:23 PM |
| hi, just to let you know im from england and my fianceelives in ohio. we see each other every two to three months and know we are soulmates and meant to be together. all you who live in the same country, whats the matter with you? if i lived in the usa we would be together and married now. distance isnt a problem, its the immigration and red tape that is. we areworking on it. as for our love... well niether of us has ever known love like we have, so good luck to you all but for *%^&2 sake!! get together if you really mean it! | ||
| Rachel | Manila, Philippines | 2005 May 10 07:44 PM |
| I'm in Manila and my fiance is working as a seafarer on board an international cargo ship. Your stories have been very helpful to me, thank you! | ||
| Tweety | 2005 May 10 02:27 PM | |
| In an LDR with an Aussie guy as I'm a sheila studying here in the USA. Bring on summertime in the land downunder and I'll be home for good, yay. | ||
| alexis | texas | 2005 May 04 06:47 PM |
| Yeah i am in a LDR and it is hard because it is still so new ....We are really having the highs and lows of relationship only b/c of the miles between us I wish the best of luck to all of thoes couples who are miles away from the love of their lives !!! | ||
| -K- | 2005 May 02 06:46 PM | |
| Hey yeah im in a relationship with someone in tennessee and im in virginia! | ||
| -K- | virginia | 2005 May 02 06:43 PM |
| Hello, yeah im currently in a LDR right now andit really really really sucks!!! i cant stand to be apart from him like this! i feel like im dying, but ur book really helped me i knew after reading ur book that we could get through ne thing together and distance isn't gonna tear us apart thank you! | ||
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