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I had first met Jamie when I was around 11 or 12. My older brother who was 18/19 at the time was going to college for opera and would have frequent recitals. He always had the same accompanist who was a year ahead of him and working on his piano degree. My family and I always adored Jamie because he was so talented the entire five years my brother was in college. He was really connected with my family througout the years and the sweetest person I knew. My brother and Jamie ended up best friends and were roomates in Chicago after they both finished school.
I don't remember developing a crush on Jamie until I was in college. I went to school for theatre so whenever our family would visit my brother, Jamie would always ask how school was going and what my plans were, basically being nice to "the little sister." I would hope to see Jamie every visit but sometimes it wouldn't be possible because of his schedule. He had a college sweetheart and I remember her while him and my brother were in school but when he moved to Chicago, they had broken up. I would wonder if Jamie would be interested in me, but I never thought it would happen given the 8 year difference.
My brother ended up touring with a production so that meant no indirect contact with Jamie anymore. I would occassionally ask my brother how he was doing. I had heard he moved to NYC and was doing very well as a music director. I didn't know if I'd ever really see him again and moved on.
A fews years later, my brother announced he was getting married and Jamie was one of the groomsmen. I was happy to see Jamie along with my brother's other friends but was more focused on the excitement of going to Puerto Rico for the wedding.
We got to Puerto Rico and we're having a great time. The second day was the dress rehearsal. I didn't give Jamie much thought and had forgotten about my childhood crush until I saw him. I was shocked and had forgotten that he'd be there. I wasn't prepared-how did I look, am I acting mature, does he remember me or even my name? He said of course he remembered me. He looked so handsome! I tried to play it cool. He asked about theatre and we caught up for about 5 or so minutes. He was there with a female friend and I wasn't thinking I had a chance, but I wanted to talk to him again.
I didn't get to talk to him again until after the wedding as we all waited for the reception to start. I was alittle nervous, and so attracted to him like before, but now I was 23-maybe I actually had a chance. And he seemed interested in me although he stayed a gentleman and never pushed up on me. I asked him to save me a dance and we danced a few times. He's not a dancer by no means, but it was nice to be that close to him for the first time. He sat at my table and we just talked and talked about life. His female friend wasn't someone he was seeing and she stayed occupied herself so I never gave her too much thought.
I asked him if he wanted to hang out after the reception and he said yes since we stayed at different hotels. It wasn't really confirmed and i thought he'd call my room if he came by but he never did. I later found out he waited in the lobby hoping to see me.
The last day I hoped I would see him and talk more but I didn't have his number or anything and didn't know if I was still the "little sister." I had called my parents' room and they told me Jamie was there talking with my dad, catching up. I told my mother to tell him I said hello and I wanted to see him, but he didn't call or anything. I later found out my mother didn't give him the message. The day was coming to an end and my sisters and I strolled to the beach one last time. I knew there was a chance to see him so I put on my bikini top and wrap around skirt with one leg out and I got my wish. Only, I had to play it cool since he didn't make any effort to see me that I knew. I nonchalantly said hello and didn't make conversation at all and kept going. He's never forgotten that outfit!
We left Puerto Rico and I thought I'd never see him again.
About a week later, my father mentioned in passing that Jamie wanted me to email him. I had the biggest smile ever! I emailed him a neutral email. He replied apologizing if he offended me in any way while we were talking at the reception. We had talked about some deep issues but I didn't think anything of it. We kept emailing about random things and I mentioned that I would rather talk on the phone. It took him three days to call. The first conversation was unbelievable. I couldn't believe I was talking to Jamie, my old crush and my brother's best friend! The next night I called him. I stepped out on a limb and told him I had a confession. I told him I had a crush on him as a teenager. He couldn't believe it and told me he had a crush on me since Puerto Rico! I still can't put into words how I felt. We've pretty been together since and it's been over nine months.
The big issues we had to face initially was the distance-he lives in New York and I live in Milwaukee, he's my brother's best friend and my brother never let his friends date any of his four sisters, he's white (I'm african-american and my family isn't too open with interracial dating) and I have a son.
Race was hard to deal with but of course capable of overcoming. The biggest problem was my brother. My brother was in London at the time performing so he had no idea what had brewed. I was reluctant to tell him and wanted to wait until we had established something. But my father had spilled the beans and my brother was furious. He felt Jamie and I were hiding something and he wasn't cool with it at all. But Jamie and I knew from the beginning this was worth fighting for and no one was going to tear us apart. It took a couple of months for him to give us his blessing, but now things are great. My family overall is coming around.
I see him about once a month or so in New York and we've been fortunate to spend holidays together with our families and my son recently visited him this past Easter.
It's not easy being in a ldr on top of the issues we have to face, but we have a strong foundation and I know this is it. I never would of thought I'd end up with who I thought growing up to be the most talented, caring, kindest and amazing person I ever met. I still think that to this day and he's even more amazing than I ever imagined.
Jamie doesn't have a clear memory of me until my late teens and told me he always thought I was beautiful but that was about it until Puerto Rico. He actually told me we did our first professional gig together. He played keyboard and I was an actress in a production in Madison, WI. I was 17. We were both entering important stages of our lives during that time but our paths hadn't really crossed yet.
We both agree that there would have been no way for us to connect as we have had he not been friends with my brother, not unless I auditioned for a show he was directing, but even then, the relationship would have been only work based.
My brother and his wife live in NYC now so I get to spend time with both of them which to me brings things back full circle.
Malkia from Milwaukee, WI
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